Learning how to get over someone you love is never easy and every person will need to do it in their own way and in their own time frame. Don’t ever let well meaning friends try to tell you that you should be ‘over it’ in a certain period of time. I once heard someone actually use a formula (the number of months you were together would determine how many weeks it would take you to move on) to tell someone when they should be ready to move on. That is ridiculous. We all deal with things in our own way and you can’t use a set formula to determine when the heart will heal.
Since not every love is the same, and not every person is the same, it’s just nuts in my opinion to try and calculate the appropriate length of a broken heart. Now I do have to say that you should be showing signs of improvement after a month or so. No one is saying you are over it, just that you are starting to get some blood circulating again and maybe starting to glimpse the light at the end of the tunnel. If you’re not seeing any improvement at all after a few months you may want to see a therapist so they can help you steer a course to happiness. Sometimes just having an objective person who you can talk to and who can give you advice can help a lot.
Your friends will no doubt try but again, sometimes a stranger is just easier to deal with. While you are waiting to get over it and heal, please don’t make the mistake of putting your life on hold. No one is suggesting that you go out and date during this time but that doesn’t mean you can’t still have some fun. If you think you are ready to date than go for it, but be careful that you don’t get caught up in a rebound situation. It’s very easy to do and you don’t want to hurt yourself and someone else.
Even if you don’t think you are ready to date it’s best if you try and stay busy doing positive activities. Avoid those things that are destructive such as drinking too much, or indulging in too much food, etc. Strictly limit your activities to those things that will move you forward (even if it’s just in baby steps) in your life.
It is also a good idea to start getting rid of all those reminders of your ex. Take the photos off the wall, and put the knick knacks that the two of you have collected away. Rearrange your furniture, repaint your living room. It doesn’t matter just do some things that will help you create a fresh new you and help take away the painful memories of your ex.
It will just take time to learn how to get over someone you love
. To make it as easy as possible on yourself try to stay busy, live your life to the fullest, do only positive things that are uplifting and keep you moving forward. Don’t beat yourself up or set a time limit on your healing. You will find love again some day as long as you keep yourself
open to it.
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