Guys are pretty simple creatures, I admit it. Our wants and needs are few, and we usually mean exactly what we say. However, there are times when the women in our lives just don’t get us, or vice-versa. Eventually, these misunderstandings lead to the break up of a relationship. But being simple, it’s quite common for a guy who has been dumped to wonder how to get an ex back. Here some thoughts to help you make that happen.
Okay, first things first. Does it really matter that she dumped you? Think about this. As guys it’s easy for us to just coast along and like things as they are. We may think we’re in love, but we’re really just in love with the idea of being in a relationship, or enjoy the routine we had while being a couple. Now that that’s gone, we may only be fooling ourselves that what we want to do is get an ex back, but what we really want is to go back to the routine we have grown accustomed to.
From here on out, we will assume that you really do want to get your ex back. Which brings us to the next step. You need to do your best to figure out if your ex still likes you. Be careful here. You have to be able to separate what your wishes are from reality. Anyway, if you find there is a chance she still likes you, then that’s a good sign.
It’s at this point that a lot of guys blow it. They start overdoing it by trying to get in touch with their ex. They call, send emails and text messages, and bump into their ex girlfriends “accidentally”. This is not only rude, but it will only serve to push them even further away.
The better way to handle it is to do nothing. Well, do nothing in regards to trying to contact your ex. Go out with your friends, have a good time, and life your life. The more fun you have, the better. just to be clear, you are not doing this to spite your ex. She will eventually find out that you’re carrying on just fine, and this will show her that you have accepted things the way they are, and are a well-adjusted person. Granted, you may feel like a wreck, but nobody else has to know that.
The other key to how to get an ex back is to look back at what led to your break up. You need to dig deep and get to the root causes. Doing this will help prevent you from making the same mistakes in the future. It will also demonstrate that you cared enough about making things right, and that is one of the best ways to make sure the two of you will get back together. Remember that the best things in life take work, but they are also the exact same things that are truly worth fighting for.
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